What truly makes a woman happy? The thing Feminism won’t tell you

What makes a woman truly happy? Is it climbing the corporate ladder, building a successful career, and achieving financial independence? Or is it creating a peaceful home, raising children, and embracing the quiet beauty of homemaking? The answer, contrary to what feminism would have you believe isn’t one-size-fits-all…

I believe that it’s women who live in alignment with their deepest values, whether in the workplace or at home, tend to experience greater fulfilment than those who feel pressured into a lifestyle that doesn’t suit them. The real question isn’t about whether being a traditional wife or a career woman is “better,” but rather, whether a woman is free to choose the life that brings her joy - without judgement.

Lately I’ve realised why I’ve been frustrated with modern culture and especially the female narrative so much lately, is that it wants to fit us into neat little boxes - and women are still judged for what they do and say. In many cases, we are our own worst enemies in this. So many women have tried to call me out for being anti-feminist, or stupid for not working outside the home.

What these so called feminists are really asking of me, by pressuring me to fall in line, is to ultimately be unhappy. While simultaneously desperately chasing happiness themselves, even husbands!

Like crabs in a bucket.

So, are housewives happier than working wives?

Contrary to what you might have been told, or influenced to think - a woman’s happiness isn’t dictated by a single path, it’s shaped by her values, her calling, and the life she truly desires.

Studies show that women who embrace a lifestyle aligned with their core beliefs, whether as a homemaker or a career woman, experience greater fulfilment than those who feel forced into a role that doesn’t fit. The key to lasting joy isn’t conformity - it’s authenticity!

For many traditional wives, happiness comes from having the freedom to focus on their families, nurture their homes, and live at a slower, more intentional pace. Ladies who are housewives by choice feel deep fulfilment in their roles as wives, mothers, and homemakers, especially when they see their work bearing fruit in strong marriages, well-raised children, and peaceful homes. Being able to prioritise family, and homemaking without the pressures of a corporate job can bring so much contentment. It’s a blessing!

I know this, because I’ve lived on both sides of the fence. Being a housewife feels far more authentic to my dreams, goals, and expression of who I am, than any “job” I’ve had. Equally, I have really great friends who wouldn’t dream of giving up their corporate careers.

In the process of working towards this authentic way of life for myself, I’ve had to reject a lot of feminist thinking… like, “having a job means I contribute towards society in a better way”, and that relying on a man financially (or in any way, for that matter), is terrible.

What truly makes a woman happy? The truth feminism won’t tell you

There are many modern working women who find happiness in their careers, feeling empowered by financial independence and professional accomplishments. However, in the study mentioned above, these same women, despite having more opportunities, are reporting higher levels of stress, anxiety, and burnout than past generations. Balancing work, family, and personal well-being can be exhausting, and many working women express feeling overwhelmed by the expectation to “do it all.”

Please don’t believe feminism’s greatest con - that you will be happy trying to split yourself in two.

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All women work are working, even housewives!

Ultimately, happiness isn’t about one lifestyle being superior to another, it’s about whether a woman is living in alignment with her calling.

A woman who is joyfully fulfilling her role, whether in the home or workplace, will be happier than one who feels torn between societal pressures and her true desires. Don’t listen to the feminist naysayers when they lie about your life - for they don’t know how you are also fulfilled in your role at home.

Many people outsource to other “working women” the jobs that fall under your responsibility, remember that!

What has been forgotten in all this, and what modern feminist thinkers have had a lobotomy over, is that our great great grandmothers fought for our right to choose the life that makes us happiest - and if that is being a homemaker - we should simply be focusing on our marriages, homes, and families, rather than what the world thinks of us, or how we choose to show up in it.

You should be free to embrace what makes you happy, even if it’s “just” being a homemaker.

With love as always,